How many times have you undermined your goals to avoid the possibility of failure? How often has your fear of failing stopped you from even trying?
I am a strong believer that the body achieves what the mind believes. The mind is a powerful thing and it will give up way before the body does. So if you are filling your mind with self doubt, discouragement and negative thoughts, how are you ever going to get to where you want to be?
We need to stop fearing failure and embrace it. Instead of getting defeated by it, we need to pick ourselves up and try again and again. Failure teaches us what to do next and how to better ourselves. It's all part of the process of success. When we hit that point that we can't go on - that's where the real growth begins. Failure is a tool that we can use to improve our performance, physically and mentally.
In my own sporting career in rhythmic gymnastics, my mind became a massive contributor to my results. I battled with self doubt and consistently held myself back for fear of not being able to take it to the next level. This ended up impacting my physical performance. It wasn’t until I changed my mindset to a positive one, kicked my fear of failing and started to back myself that my results then followed.
I was holding myself back from my full potential, all because I did not believe in myself and was scared of going beyond the point where I felt I would fail. I was sticking to my safe zone - but we all know that the biggest gains come when you step outside your comfortable little box and venture into unknown territory.
You genuinely have to believe in yourself and believe in your skill, and squash those thoughts that pushing to the point of failure is failing yourself. We are capable of so much more than we believe and it's not until we go where we have never been before that we find out what we're truly able to achieve. We just need to physically try and fight that voice in our head that tells us no and be prepared to fail, then try again anyway.
Whether it’s running that extra 500 metres, adding that extra 10kg to the bar or going another rep - we so often mentally stop ourselves before we physically try as we are so scared of what we are unable to do. What's the worst that could happen though? Really. So you don't make the lift, you end up walking the last 100 metres - you've still gone beyond your mental limits and you shouldn't see that as a failure at all. You pushed yourself to perform. You tried to take it to the next level. And that sort of attitude will take you places.
It's time to change your inner voice to a yes and back yourself! In order to create a strong mindset we must have goals in place that are going to push us, goals that we're probably going to fail at a few times before we nail them. Set high goals and don’t sell yourself short - aim higher then you ever thought possible and strive to hit that mark.
Set small goals along the way to keep you on track for your end goal. Focus on the journey, the steps along the way, the discovery, the improvements and the excitement of the process. Little wins all add up to big progressions! And failures are learning opportunities.
Let’s aim higher than before, say yes to our goals, embrace failure as part of making progress and accomplish things we never thought possible!
- Emily #noexcuses